孩子

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Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls.
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows
from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you.
With His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the Archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrows that flies
so He loves also the bow that is stable

Children ~Kahlil Gibran

和女兒約在忠孝復興站會合
等她的時候看窗外幾棵高大的木棉樹
橘紅花朵怒放宣告春天消息
一早趕車有點緊繃的神經隱隱開始放鬆
天橋下行人完全不知自己是某個目光焦點
直到看見女兒由扶梯上緩緩而下便完全鬆懈下來

那個曾經緊握住我的小手早己不隨便讓我握
淚流满面看到我才破涕的小臉
己變得那麼堅定勇敢而自信
從她為同學打抱不平被老師打手心的開始
我己相信孩子早已不是我的孩子
她一直是她自己

到了大直跟這陣子回國小住的兒子見到面
三人坐在餐廳點餐看兒子關心姊姊温柔說話的樣子
依然是每天睡前把隔天一早要用的穿的整齊排好
總要多帶份早餐給隔代教養被同學排擠的那個小男生
從他要求爸爸放掉釣上來為生掙札的魚和蝦
勸爸爸丟棄釣竿不得送人的開始
我己知道父母能給孩子愛, 他却不歸屬於誰
他有自己的思想有某些堅持和要走的路
他一直是他自己

那道射出去的箭矢曾經為它預設目標
但慶幸及時調整了操作心態
只要用力拉好弓以穩健的手射向正確的方向
要多少奮力要如何飛馳就由它決定吧！
放下水的輕舟曾為它設定多少載重能力
幸好了解父有所不能無法永遠周全
只要放的穩當就讓它順著水流去想到的地方
能走多遠要看多少風景且放手由它量力而為吧！

我學習不要期待孩子依我們的期望生活
提醒自己不要為他們預設如何走我們的老路
別人口中所謂的成功不是成功
而是心懷憐憫、尊重與無私奉獻
生命不可能重來，孩子的未來由他自己去開拓
也許默默無名，心志却光明偉大
也許職份卑微, 却能心靈快樂自由,
那才是他自己。